Younger men? Alaye (boss lady), drop the cane and read first. At least, hear me out before pouncing.
There will be a time in every lady’s life that a younger guy will come into the picture and then, boom! What a quandary. Should I or not?
The answer is tricky but, in the end, only you can decide. Lanre News Inside Life has taken its time to dissect this matter and came up with five reasons not to date any Nigerian man younger than you or on the lighter note, five (5) things to consider before dating younger Nigerian men.
1. Age is NOT just a number
Forget it. Age is not just a number. If it is, why can’t you date a 5 years boy then? Back to the main issue, consider your age and why you are getting into the relationship.
For prospective marriage or just for the fun. If for the fun; well, you are safe. Happy ride sugar mummy.
But if for prospective marriage; hmm. First, consider the age gap. What is the guy’s plan for the future? If you are 39 years old for instance, better not imagine getting into a relationship with someone lesser than 25 years old.
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This 25-year-old also must have a sense of at least 30 years old. You need someone with a good vision for the future and not the one that is only in for the fun of it.
It will shock you the day you will hear, “come to think of it, are you expecting me to marry someone that is older than our firstborn?” Gbams!! Egungun (masquerade) better be careful.
2. Love is NOT part of the equation
Probably why you are thinking of this person that is younger than you is because you think you are in LOVE with them.
Shocker! LOVE should be out of the equation to permit you to think clearly. Sit for once and imagine, if there is nothing like LOVE on the table, does this young man have any other thing to offer.
It is that extra that will hold the relationship together after the lovi-lovi fades off.
They are also more likely to break up with you. As the relationship progress, they get attracted to someone of their age or younger. And in this case, they are prone to dump you for the younger girl. Sorry, that is the reality!
But for people in it for the fun, no need of marching the brake. Ride on!!
3. RUN if you don’t have sexual stamina
Men reach their sexual peak in their 20s, women probably in their 30s and 40s. Going into a relationship with a younger bring with it the juice of sexual activeness which can be a problem for you.
If you have a low sex drive, this can be a problem as the guy might not be satisfied sexually in the relationship.
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Again, for people in it for the fun (sugar mommies or cougars), ride on. You pay for what you get and when you have enough, you can order the trumpeter to stop playing.
4. Younger men are very POSSESSIVE
You may be their first love. As much as this is a great thing; since you are more likely to be at the top of their heart, it comes with its curse.
They flair up seeing you with another guy even if such a guy might be just a friend or EX. Older men has seen different scenarios and could handle such a situation better. But the newbies in the game (younger men), be ready for lots of drama.
This is also where sugar mommies/cougars should be careful. Except you set boundaries with threats from the onset, they could ruin your life. They would want to possess you. Same goes for married men dating younger girls too.
5. Are you ready for adventures?
Young men are still energetic and have seen less of the world. Their exploration taste is always higher. They want to try new things. Want to check out the new club and bar in town.
Be prepared to live with this. They may hang out overnight with friends without coming home or entering late.
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Most of these young men are not psychologically ready for responsibilities that come with a committed relationship. No one is on their neck to bring a wife you. You are probably the one under pressure.
Conclusion
Dating a young man is not bad. But could be a bad idea. Weigh on the listed reasons and see how both of you measure.
Some fantastic young men are more mature and committed than their older folks. Most of them however are a few years younger than their partner (say 1,2 or 3 years). This does not mean age difference more than that would work. But then, just as stated at the beginning of this article, in the end, only you can decide.
Five Quotes About Love
“When they tell you LOVE will find you when you least expect, it is not that it is never there before. It is that you will be surprised it has always been lying there all along.” ― Opeyemi L.R
“Some of us were made to believe that you need a man, or a woman, to be happy. I say you need to know yourself and love yourself to find that elusive emotion that we call happiness.”
― Hagir Elsheikh
“You see the separation of life as very arbitrary at this time. You are not alone in this assumption. You have far more connection than you are even vaguely aware of. You will not lose the LOVE that is yours.” ― Donna Goddard
“Love is a journey and a destination – long and excruciating on the way, unexpected and ecstatic if found.” ― Stewart Stafford
“People make the mistake of entering into a relationship and thinking that the other person will fill the void that they are missing, that they will bring them the happiness and joy they are looking for.”
― Hagir Elsheikh
“It is not until you rhyme with a person that makes you their perfect match, it is when you are satisfied with each other’s peculiarities, and find jewels in their loopholes.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson
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